Ok the other day I received this in the mail and it really made me sit and reflect on my choices when it comes to men. It also provoked thoughts on exactly how things should be. As my blog title states "we have to chose more wisely". Our current situations are a result of all of our previous choices. We have to choose more wisely and take responsibility for our choices!

I often warn women who are contemplating marriage to marry someone who cantake care of them. When a woman marries, it ought to be to someone who iscapable of taking her to the next level. If she comes from poverty, there isno reason for her to get married and still be impoverished. The role of theman is to take her to another place.When she gets married, she ought to dress better, drive better, live better,and eat better, not constantly be in a struggle over where her next meal iscoming from. My grandmother used to say, "I can do bad all by myself". For awoman desiring a mate, the objective, of course, would be to find aChristian man, who's settled, has goals, accomplishments and a job. But agoal-oriented and focused man can't just be approached any kind of way. Sothe woman who seeks this type of stability must make sure that she standsout above the crowd:
1. Make sure your relationship with the Lord is strong and growing.
2. Make sure that you are presentable. Working from the inside out, your presentation should be representative of both who you are and whom you seek.Appearance is a reflection of how you see yourself.
3. Have the ability to hold an intelligent conversation.
4. And most importantly, allow the Holy Ghost to take control. You don'tneed to go after him. He's going to come after you, because after he seesand smells you and knows that you're in his presence, he's going to want toknow who you are! I know there's somebody reading this who has been chasingafter the "man of your dreams," but God says, "Just sit still and allowpatience to have her perfect work through Me."

As always, focus on loving you.
Your Girl,
Valarie